Do you believe that the best leaders are born, not made? What about musicians, artists, mathematicians?
Do you believe that there are only talented people and people with no potential to be stars? That's a fixed mindset.
If we think of ability as fixed, we discourage learning, practice and resilience. Could you be doing the same to yourself?
Forget about the character from Lord of the Rings (That's a different spelling anyway). Depending on your source, Golem is from a Polish fable or Jewish folklore. He's either unpleasant, an automaton, stupid or clumsy - not the kind of guy you'd want running the social club, let alone your life.
It might be useful to keep him in mind as you develop your resilience.