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Which is correct 'I would like to meet with Jane and yourself' or 'I would like to meet with Jane and you'?

It's the second.

Yourself, myself and ourselves are reflexive pronouns. They reflect back on a previous pronoun.

Put it this way: they need a mate - a compatible word earlier in the sentence.

The mate for myself is I so: 'I will do it myself' is correct. The mate for yourself is you, so 'You must do it yourself' is correct. The mate for ourselves is we, so 'We will do it ourselves' is correct.

Some people use yourself and yourselves on their own to make their letters and emails seem more formal and therefore (they think) more important or respectful. It just makes their writing stuffy and the grammatical error annoys sticklers. (And you don't want to get offside with them.)

About Ralph Brown

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Ralph is our founder and managing director. He has a background in psychology, television journalism and business.

Ralph's passions are psychology and writing. He leads workshops on both and speaks to conferences on the psychology of thriving at work.

In 2011  Professional Speakers Australia awarded him its top speaking accreditation, the CSP.

He has written six books and more than a hundred articles on psychology and writing. International research journals have published his articles reviewing the research on resilience.

Ralph's enjoys trips to France. He lives in rural Canterbury.

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